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I once thought if people could just find out what they were made to do… find their real life-calling, it would change everything! People would love their work, find meaning and purpose and be happy, really happy! So in 2001, I resigned as a pastor of a church, and set out to help people discover their calling… their purpose. Well, I was wrong. At least I wasn’t totally right! Knowing your purpose and calling does indeed make a difference. HOWEVER, the missing key ingredient: It’s this: “a way to change.” It’s how to transition from the “mini-me” to the “real me” in the every-day of life. I have no doubt that most people aren’t living the lives of deep fulfillment or achieving the purpose they were made for. I still believe that many people don’t know who they are at their best.. their purpose of calling. And CNN Research agrees. Their study on well-being concluded that about only 20% of adults have a strong sense of purpose and are fully satisfied with their lives, AND less than 10% strongly believe their lives are ideal. There’s a big gap! And one of the biggest reasons for the gap: Most of us don’t know how to 1. Discover that purpose and 2. Engage it by knowing how to change their lives by changing our brains. Let’s look at #2. Brains need to be changed from patterns of stuck, stressed and feeling inadequate to free, peaceful and achieving potential as a way of life. And most education and training (even spiritual!) hasn’t equipped us to do this. However, today, like never before, there’s something that can. It’s great coaching. It may be why today coaching is bursting as a profession and people from every sphere now hire us! (a $2 billion dollar industry in the US!) When I started 16 years ago, most just assumed I was a sports coach!
Harvard now has a department that teaches coaching.
Companies now pay $500 an hour for coaching for their leaders.
Good Leadership is becoming one of the sought after skills. And Ram Charam in the Harvard Business Review recently said, “There’s no question that future leaders will need constant coaching.”
Let’s face it, most people (well, really all people) have things in their lives that really are toxic… and they may have come to believe they simply cannot and will not change! Vision, dream, calling or not! They’re moody, inconsistent, negative, disouraged and just plain STUCK with what they feel like life, DNA or the divine has given them!
Albert Einstein once observed: "We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them."
But new thinking, coaching, and neuroscience have answers! Really?
Modern neuroscience now shows what the Bible has been saying for thousands of year: BRAINS CAN CHANGE!
“As a man thinks, so he is.” (Proverbs 23:7) And “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2)
Unlike even 20 years ago, when it was believed that brains are the way they are, studies in neuroscience now show that WE have the power to change our lives by changing our brains.
So, why coaching!?
Because great coaching helps you break free from the ineffective but “hardwired” parts of your brain and helps you replace the negative and self-defeating thoughts with healthier ways to see the world - including you! Coaching helps question “stinkin-thinkin” and replace it with new thoughts. Coaching isn't counseling, but may, at times, be more helpful in breaking free from chronic neuro-problems that result in ineffective stress, anxiety, and at times, even depression. A coach helps you
1. See yourself at your best
2. Discover new ways to think and discard patterns that are self-defeating.
3. Rewire your brain by changing your habits (some of which have been formed by negative and “hijacked amygdala thinking.
1. The first coaching step is to help you envision yourself thriving and fully engaged.
Coaching will help you create a personal picture of you living into health, freedom and even life-giving adventures. You see yourself doing what you were made to do… and that changes your brain!
2. Great coaching stretches your thinking to “think different.”
You weed out of old ways of behaving and gain "aha's" where you see your blind spot.. and choose to move past it.
3. Great coaching helps you create new habits
These new habits push out the old and then hardwire new thoughts into being your routine and way of life. And, as studies now show, such change doesn’t need to take so long! You can create a new habit in as little as 21 days! Are you open to exploring coaching? Giving it a try? It’s what great leaders, athletes, actresses, and creatives have figured out. Your ability to quiet your mind, focus your attention and become present to issues isn’t secondary to your work. It IS your work! IS COACHING FOR ME?
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